Proverbs 31: 30
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
As we wind down this Proverbs 31 series, I must tell you something: I have been waiting for this verse. I really, really like this verse. This verse is for the women out there that feel overlooked or under appreciated. This verse goes against every thing society tries to tell us. This verse is GOD’s word, summing up what women are to be and what we are to strive for.
Yes, go buy yourself something nice and when you go on a date with your hubby get dressed up. The verse isn’t saying not to dress nice or look nice. This verse isn’t saying to not be kind to others. It is saying looks aren’t everything and can be deceiving. Think of that for a minute, will you? Can’t you just picture someone who is charming? Someone who talks with a smile on their face though you aren’t really sure what is underneath that smile.
Do you know some words that are synonyms of charm? Delight, please, attract, allure, enchant, seduce. Hmmm.
We never want our words to be deceitful. As believers, our actions, words and deeds need to be honoring to the Lord, our husbands and to those around us. Those who speak with fingers crossed behind their backs or out of both sides of their mouths will never be praised. Sure, they may be praised for the moment. They may be praised or receive awards here on earth, however those rewards will burn. They do not matter. Beauty is for a time. I don’t know any 90 year old who looks like she did when she was 20. (Even with surgery!) ;-) Beauty is vain and passing. (This is probably a different topic for a different day but do look nice for your husbands. They appreciate it!) Beauty isn’t what is going to sustain you.
Fearing the Lord is what matters. Praising Him. Serving Him. Honoring Him. The rest is not important. What a husband wants in his wife is a woman who loves God and loves him. He wants someone who respects him, who takes care of his children, who helps those around them and who serves willingly.
Charm is deceitful. Beauty is vain. A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.