Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
Well, that is one way to kick off this series. There’s nothing like a little pressure (ok, a LOT of pressure) in turning into a Proverbs 31 woman. The very first verse in this passage talks about a virtuous wife and how her worth is far above rubies.
Having high moral standards/Excellent
In verse 10, finding a wife with high moral standards is rare and when you find one, she is of value, far above rubies.
Is that me? More importantly, can my husband say that about me? Do I always have high moral standards? Am I, dare I say, excellent? On the surface, I would like to think I have high moral standards. I try to watch what I say to my husband and others. I try to be a good example to my children by my actions and words.
Being excellent or virtuous in today's world isn't exactly easy. There are temptations all over and we have to learn (and desire) to keep our eyes from them. A reminder that being excellent doesn't mean you are perfect. You aren't going to be a perfect wife. I'm certainly not a perfect wife. However, we can strive for perfection. We will never achieve it but looking towards a goal, a standard is a great way to stay focused on who we are to be and what we are to become.
Of course, I would love to say I always hold the title to a virtuous wife but I don’t. It is a daily lesson I am learning, it's a struggle and I pray. A lot. A LOT. I want my worth to my husband to be far above rubies. It starts with my actions. My actions speak from the state of my heart. Which can only be shaped and formed by God and His Word. Ladies, it is possible to become that virtuous, non-perfect, excellent wife in verse 10. Focus on the goal, that standard. When we fail (not if, but when), pick yourself up and keep trying.
Ok, this is all nice and good, but how? Here are a few suggestions:
- Stay in God's Word. You can't grow in God if you aren't reading the Bible.
- Surround yourself with Godly women. Get into a Bible study, join a M.O.M.S group at your church or ask an older woman to meet with you weekly to help you to learn and grow.
- Ask your husband what you can do for him. Is there something he would like you to change or do differently? Be prepared, you may not like the answer! But remember, he loves you and you love him. Listen with open ears and heart and pray about it.
On day three we will talk about trust and provision.
What about you? Do you have any suggestions for being an excellent, virtuous wife?